… stop and smell the roses…
This is not the first article I am doing on mental wellness, but just in case this is the first one that you are coming into contact with, I would wish to use the exact definition I used for mental wellness on the first blog I did. I will make a definition of mental wellness with quite a number of words. Being mentally well for me is when I have the ability to learn, feel, express  and manage a series of positive and negative emotions. Being mentally well is being able to form and maintain good relationship with others. It is my ability to maintain my cool even when everything around me is saying I should be worked up. With this in mind, I believe we can all agree that mental wellness includes our emotional, psychological and our social wellbeing. So today I want us to discuss a few things that have been found to work in boosting your mental wellness. As I said sometimes back, I know this is a topic that is surrounded with a lot of misconceptions and stereotypes. For this reason I would wish we stick to the definition I have provided above. Kindly allow me to share with you some few ways that we can boost our mental wellbeing. This is for everyone, whether you think you are stable enough or you think you are not doing well. a). What’s so wrong about speaking out what you feel? I have been perceived as a very strong person most of the time and this for a very long time denied me the opportunity to be me and the chance to be vulnerable to someone. There is nothing prestigious in appearing strong to everybody yet crumbling from deep within. I also feel like we are not well socialized, how do we tell our boys that men don’t cry? How do we tell them that men don’t go sharing their stuff, you should man up! Boy, how deceiving can this get! We end up having very depressed men around because they were taught to bottle up everything. I cannot overemphasize how wrong this is. Please talk about your feelings, talking out is not being weak; it is taking charge of your health and wellness, this is where we say, ‘a problem shared is a problem half solved.’ b). Writing When I talk of writing, I mean expressive writing. My firstborn is 17 years, for the longest time she has kept this green journal that the dad gave to her. We always made fun of her because every time we would have a disagreement she would go pick her journal and go to the bedroom. Before I learnt how expressive writing is important for our mental wellness, this little one knew. Every single day putting the events of your day on paper and preferably don’t type in gadgets, doing it on paper is more helpful. As you do this, if the occurrences were negative as you write the heaviness has a way of disappearing and it helps you to sort the issues at hand objectively. c). Journaling (Gratitude/achievement journal) My dad bought me my first diary when I was in class four. He may not have given me enough on what I could use the diary for apart from scheduling those important days and events, but I appreciate every effort he put. I have a dream journal I have kept for quite some time and it really helped me know over time some of the things I was battling. When you keep a gratitude journal or an achievement journal, it keeps you in perspective. Sometimes we feel like we are forgotten and nothing good is happening, but when you keep track of those small things and opportunities that have come our way, and the things we have been able to achieve, we are more encouraged. I will advise that you give yourself some grace. Appreciate every small achievement. d). Work your strong areas Often times there are those things you enjoy doing or your areas of strength. If it is on physical exercises which are also so good for our mental health, if you can’t run, jog, if you can’t jog, walk, if you love dancing instead, please dance! You are not in a competition with anyone; our concern is improving ourselves each and every day and bettering ourselves. e). Allow me to use the words of Martin Luther King Jr. “You don’t have to see the whole stair case, just take the first step.” In quality improvement we say, taking small steps of change. You just need to take the first small step in the right direction. Pick an item at a time.  There is so much that we can do to improve our mental health. Like we said in the previous blogs kindly if you feel overwhelmed, speak out, reach out. There are professionals who can help you with the issues you are battling with. The bible says, we are surrounded by a huge crowd of witnesses. This is to mean, whatever you are going through, you are not the first one, others have been there and they emerged victorious. You can and you will too. Everything is possible to those who believe. Kindly if you haven’t followed or subscribed please do.  If you found it helpful, share with a friend. They say sharing is caring !



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